Heartbreak Without a Relationship: A Journey of Unrequited Love

Most boys experience heartbreak without ever being in a relationship. They often become emotionally attached to a girl who doesn't reciprocate their feelings. At first, everything seems normal. You meet a girl, and things go well because you have no expectations from her. Gradually, you become attached and accustomed to her presence in your life. She makes you feel special, and that's enough to make you happy. You try your best to make her happy too.

Whenever you talk to other girls, she gets jealous. When you give attention to other girls, she gets upset. These moments strengthen and mature your bond. But the painful truth is, you spend more time getting over her than you spent falling in love with her.

At some point, you realize that you love her deeply and can't bear the thought of losing her or seeing her with someone else. You consider proposing but are scared of rejection and the possibility of losing her. In this situation, expressing your feelings becomes difficult. You end up annoying her as a way to show your love, hoping she understands your heart. She might understand your emotions but chooses to ignore them. Sometimes, you hope she'll propose to you, but it never happens.

Finally, you gather the courage to approach her, only to hear the most common response: "You are more than a friend to me; you are special in my life. But I don't have romantic feelings for you. I need to focus on my career and goals right now."

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She tries to convince you that you deserve someone better and promises not to enter a relationship with anyone else. But deep down, you know she doesn't feel the same way. Maybe she's lying to herself and to you. This rejection might not hurt as much because your priority is to keep her in your life, even as a friend.

However, a few months later, you discover she's in a relationship with someone she met just a few months ago. This revelation hurts more than her initial rejection. It makes you feel inadequate and unworthy of her love. You can't share your pain with anyone because you've already lost her. It's like losing someone close who was never really close to you.

Despite the pain, you remain friends, sharing everything like before. But over time, things change. The special bond you had fades away. No texts, no calls, no chats. Deep down, you still wait for her. This is real love: when everything hurts, but you still want the same person over and over again.

But guys, be a gentleman. Don't abuse or taunt her for not being in a relationship with you. Respect her feelings, admire her choices, and pray for her happiness. Don't force her into a relationship. Maybe one day she'll understand your rarity and appreciate your loyalty and love.

Eventually, you start treating people the way they treat you. Your story evolves from chatting under the blanket till 3 AM to crying under the blanket till 3 AM. You lose faith in love and realize that the worst lies start with, "Trust me, I'm not like others." If your love turns lonely, let it go. The greatest lesson you've learned is that you can be important to someone, but not all the time.

Don't be upset or disappointed. Let go of those who can't understand your silence. Use your past pain as fuel to drive you to a better future. Stop looking for a partner and focus on your goals and rebuilding your life. The right person will eventually find their way to you.